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Well I am not sure where to start! I have been married to my husband for 16 years, we have been though ups and downs before, but this one I am not sure how to get though. My husband spends a lot of time on his computer. Well in Novemeber I couldn't take his controling ways and I left and went and stayed with some family. He talked me into coming back, I came back to work on things with him, he was acting very strange telling me to go do things and to get out with out him, this is something that he did not want me to do before. He was telling his family that he was doing what his lawyer told him to do, and they were not happy that I came back. I was wondering what was going on so I went into his facebook mail to see what else he was telling his sister, and I found a message that he got him self into a predicament that he had feelings for someone else! When I asked him about it he said I had only seen part of the converation. and he was talking about in the past. So I believed him! Well I also found that he had been going to a russian brides site, he said he started that in the two days that I was gone. I also started checking his bank accounts found out that in Two and a half months he spent $3000 on "porn" the kind that you can chat with girl and pay them to do it! I would walk back and he would be chatting with this one blonde girl, and it would upset me, he was also taking steps to get his passport! I came home one night from work and he was talking to her, when I told him I was upset (ok so I flipped a little) He told me if I couldn't trust him then it was over, he was going to move out but it was going to take him time. He went out and baught a web cam so he could talk to this girl, he would take a shower go into the bedroom and chat with her for hours on end, with the door shut. I would flip out everytime because it would hurt me. then he tells me that he wants to work it out with me but I can't tell him he can not talk to his friends so I told him he has to prove to me that nothing is going on, he agreed to save the messages and let me read them to prove there was nothing going on, he kept talking to her and I would get angery everytime. He keeps saying that she is 3000 miles away and nothing can ever happen. well he told me he would not send me the converstions because of the way I was acting, i got very upset went to get on his computer and there is a password, this is new!!! then me getting upset time and time again, he decided not to talk to her anymore, but still would not show me the converstions! Actully he decided to stop talking to her so he wouldn't have to show them to me! said it would be easier that way! He hasn't talked to her in about a little over a week, I kept telling him he was acting like he was in love with her, and he would tell me no, that is not how i feel. I went to get a number of a co worker of mine out of his phone, I found messages from her on his cell, from this week, one was I miss you, then I love you too, then I love you, then I miss you ******! Once again I flipped out and he said I didn't text her. When I said that I was getting the text info from the phone company he told me then it is over! But keeps saying I didn't text her and I didn't do anything wrong. Then he tells me that in her country that I love you means something else? Does he think I am stupid. He still will not let me on his computer, or the recent safe that he got! He still will not let me see the converstions with her. then today tells me to stop worring, that everything will be ok! Am I just losing my mind should I worry about another woman who is 3000 miles away? Any advise would be welcome! Thank you
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