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Offline confused711

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In an awkward situation ... whats your opinion?
« on: February 21, 2012, 04:29:23 PM »
Hey everyone so I am in this new situation and I truly need some advice....

When I was in high school, 14 years old I fell in love for the first time! It was very exciting, but after a year we broke up and went our separate ways. Now, 10 years later our paths have crossed once again and we are exploring our feelings to see if anything might be there. I know its really early and things have just started up, but I can truly see myself with this man for the rest of my life. I can picture waking up to him everyday, involve him in my life, and support him in everything he does. But, there is one thing that has been lingering in my mind and has me a bit unsure on what to do. During our 10 year separation, I caught up with an old friend, had some drinks, and yes we slept together. Recently, I found out that this old friend I caught up with is one of my old loves friends and they actually play sports together for fun. When I heard I almost choked a bit and wasn't exactly sure what to do. I don't know if I should tell my old love that I slept with him friend, during our 10 year separation, or if I should leave the past in the past? I am not sure if it is something worth mentioning before things get serious and if wants to bail cause of that let him go. Or if I should not say anything and leave events of the past in the past. I just don't know. I kinda feel that I'm making a big deal over nothing and if we weren't together, dating, it shouldn't matter. What do you guys think????

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In an awkward situation ... whats your opinion?
« on: February 21, 2012, 04:29:23 PM »

Offline sinahm

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Re: In an awkward situation ... whats your opinion?
« Reply #1 on: February 22, 2012, 01:37:18 AM »
i really think you should tell him, the two of you could start to get serious and then it might come up one day and cause a lot of problems, its the best to tell him now he may feel bothered by it because they are friends but if it comes up down the road he will feel lied to, trust me things like that shouldnt be left in the dark, you didnt do anything wrong anyways you had no clue they were friends and it was before you met up with him again, trust me it will cause alot of problems if down the road you two get serious and he is still good friends with the guy
but if you bring it up now there really shouldnt be any hard feelings

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Re: In an awkward situation ... whats your opinion?
« Reply #2 on: February 23, 2012, 01:17:02 AM »
I'm literally in the exact same situation as you, but it was not a 10 year separation. I haven't said anything to my "old love", because I feel like his friend knows better than to say anything. If it would make you feel better, you could talk to his friend and tell him that you have feelings for this guy again, and that it would only hurt him if he ever mentioned that you slept with him. Honestly, lying is never the answer, but in some cases, it can be a better decision. Good luck, let me know how it goes!

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Re: In an awkward situation ... whats your opinion?
« Reply #3 on: February 25, 2012, 08:29:15 AM »
Considering the fact you two were apart for a full decade, I think it would be unreasonable that you hadn't met ANYONE in that time period. It might be an uncomfortable situation, but it's only natural that you were with someone else. He'll understand, though it will be uncomfortable initially. Just talk to him about it now, or he'll think you were hiding it for a reason, i.e. have feelings for the friends, don't think about him as a serious relationship, etc. Honesty is always the best policy, even if it does end up being awkward. I wish you luck, and I'm glad you found someone you really like after all these years, :)