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sissierra OFFLINE	Posted: 28/07/2010 00:11 Quote When I was in the 3rd grade a boy on the bus that was younger than me was kissing me and touching me even though he was younger I feel very emotional hurt.. I want a counselor to get my feelings our because a lot has happened to me since I lost my mom and even when my mom was here. The boy was just like touching me and kissing on me and i said stop over 10 times. I hit him, pulled his hair, and bit him and he would not stop! No matter what I did he wouldn't stop! Yeah he got in trouble because right when I got off the bus I told the bus driver and I ran to my house and told my gramma. My Gramma called the school and told them and he got suspended for like 5 days which didn't really do anything at all. And the worst thing is was he was proud of it! Then I got molested twice when I was 9 years old. We just moved back to my current house. Some other guy lived in the basement with his wife with us. Well I guess the guy got drunk and high and woke up in the same bed as me that same night. He was wide awake and at that time I wore night gowns. So when I woke up I screamed for my dad and he ran in there. My underwear were in the hall way. I never take my underwear off when I go to bed. My dad threatened to kill the guy if he didn't get out of the house. The guy left as soon as he could he ran out the house and found a place to stay that night. This day he is on the sex offenders list for rape.. Then the other time when I was 9 was when the couple still lived in our house but they had a party. I woke up in the middle of the night with their friend rubbing my butt. I slept on the floor by my dad because like I said we just moved back into our house and we didn't have any furniture or anything at that tie but a couch which my dad slept on. Well when I felt it I thought it was just our dog trying to get situated then I finally felt fingers and I jumped on the couch with my dad and told him and I was sleeping at the end of the couch with my dad and the guy moved to the other couch so I got back on the floor and when I got on the floor he got on the floor so I layed on the couch with out sleep and didn't tell my dad anything until morning. My dad didn't do anything.. Idk why I just don't think he believed me. Now I am scared for any guy to be around me that isn't my brother dad or uncles. I know I need to get over this fear because there are a lot of men in this world.. Helpp pleaseeee
Gold OFFLINE	Posted: 28/07/2010 01:41 Quote You should start by making your self a value list. Some thing like this. I will only be with a guy if... He is kind, has quality friends, likes my dad, my dad likes him, my brother okays him, I do not feel queemish around him, I am allowed to make the first move on him, I do not feel suspisiouse about him, he is an improvement over my last guy that I wanted to date and/or was dating. Things like that. It will act as your reasuarance that your heart and mind are open to the possibility that you could be with a guy. See, you aren't a scardy cat or fridged, just being safe and practicle. Next, make a list of the things you feel, emotions only not what you think, but how you feel about the incedents, guys, your dad and brother, and how you feel about other peoples reactions to your insedents. Then you take them one feeling at a time. No more than one, you want to break it done into baby steps. You will work on the one feeling untilyou believe you are okay with it and can cross it off the list and move to the next. may take a day or a month on just one feeling but if you really want to do it you will work on it and help your self to feeling better. So if it is feeling scared, you work on it until you are okay with crossing it off, or if you love your brother, don't just get to it and cross it off because you think duh I love my brother, give it atleast 24 hours and make sure you are showing your love and feeling your love then way you really want to, then move on. Do these things, come back and write (so helpful), and walk us and you threw your journey and issues that you may need more help on. Sounds silly but so true to do. Go to search and look for opposites and the a's. Also go to therapy clubs and read some on the A Better Way Of Life, could help. There are people out ther in this world who are but heads to us but we can say you are an ass and keep living towords happiness or say they totaly distroyed us and hide from all and everything and miss out on so much. These guys were asses and I think you should spite them and do your self a world of good and start living!!!! Proud of you for coming here and sharing, THNX! :)

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