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Posted: 30/07/2010 02:13
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Posted: 30/07/2010 05:52
I'll have a couple of weeks at my mums and feel energised, happy and together. When i get back to real life, I felt I wanted to end it all. One thing was different this time, I noticed when i got back, i still felt the same, up until the point where I spoke to my boyfriend. We've been having problems before hand and i thought by going away it would make him think about the way he acts which is non- commital. He's 36 but acts like a teenager, coming and going as he pleases. I find this very direspectful and bugs the hell out of me. Anyway after three days of being back he was up to his old tricks. Instantley i felt sad, beyond belief. All my inspiration and umph had gone in a second. Everything started to look black and heavy, myself and my life was pointless, no energy for anything. What im trying to say is, people can affect you and your life in a massive way. your best guy friend has really hurt you and this will take time to get over, theres no getting away from that. I expect he made you feel safe and the fact you had someone made you feel normal and it took the pressure of trying to get yourself a guy at school. Now it's over, the competition his high and your self esteem is low. your taking on the whole worlds problems, nobody is equipt for that. Life is hard but also it can be great. you can not have one without the other. There is an opposite to everything thats why its important to keep that balance in yourself. Maybe you need to be more choocey who you hang out with, hearing negative stuff is like chucking fuel on the fire for someone with low self esteem. People who truley care for you always have your back, if they dont, you know there not real friends. Think of life like one big test. you need to make mistakes in order to learn, you may not get it right the second or third time, You need to do research and experiments, ask why if you dont understand, to take good critisism and negative and take what you need from it. Also people who say horrible things means they feel bad about themselves. Nice happy people dont make other people unhappy on purpose. Weve been taught from a young age through fairy tales that there is always some one on your back trying to sabbortage your journey, like a wicked witch or an ogre. Just remember if you really want something in life, you will fight tooth and nail for it. The good always win. |
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Posted: 30/07/2010 10:59
Life dosn't excactly get harde, the issues we deal with just change form. When we are kids the worries are getting introuble witht the parents, parents dieing or leving, Am I going to pass my spelling test, will my friends still like me tomorrow, etc. They all are age appropiate issues. as we get older the issues change to be appropriate to the age we are. A 5 year old does not understand college and has no worries about getting in but a high school studant does but has also let go of the childhood fears of having to go to sleep and miss out on things and fun. So we have the right issues for the right age. Life getting harder? I'm not really sure, I think it may be all on how you look at it. As a child we have also not learned or been taught yet or practiced enough coping skills to be able to handle issues so we go running to our parents a lot. We get older and perfect these skills a bit more we need less hugs and feel less scared about issues. Yeah we will worry about our families and their money issues, friends and if they like us, boy friends and trying to read their emotions. We learn. You learn by confessing to the best guy friend and you learned. Now what you do with that learned info is what really will be important to you. does it stunt you from looking at love? Do you close down and never take a chance again? Do you still think love would be nice to have if it comes along? Do you still put one foot out that door as scarry as it is and take the chance that you may or may not find love that day? At the high school age your are not set up to cope with the issues of pregnancy, rent, career paths, etc. So the next few years are going to be like a pretest and learning experience to get you prepared to be able to cope with those new issues. Hope this makes since to what I am saying. You can be like the rest of the world who keeps tell you life is hard because they do not like change and are fighting it every step of the way or you can embrace change, be smart and logical about it, everything changes and you can roll with those natural changes, work with them and things will work out okay. I mean do you really want to emotionally struggle in life and fight the changes or emrace them because you can't fight them any more then you can fight air and just roll with it and enjoy a couple of good breezes, avoid some harsh winds, or wait to fill your lungs with a deep breath of freesh air. I will be the oppisite and tell you life does not get harder, it depends on how you veiw it and it can be harder or easier if you let it, depends on you and what you choose. No you are not stupid and some times, alot of times, those who are not open to or do not need the complement do not reseive them often. We humans have a backward way of working some times. 2 people take a test and score low, one says I will try harder next time and walks away smiling and the other breaks down and cries. Who do you go and comfort? The one that is obviouse that needs the support. The one who walked away should get a word of incouragement from us too but we humans forget to do that some times because that person confidence leeds us to believce that all is okay, and most of the time it is. Your probably putting off an air of confidence and these people feel you do not need the complement and others calling you names do not like the confidence and are trying to break it to make them feel good about them selves. Don't fall into the trap and do not loose the confidence. Take note and you will notice those who are true are the ones who appreciate your self confidence and depend on and rely on you to have it. Take what you can from this, toss the rest, and do what you need to do to feel good about you, you have the right. Life is not all about wars and starvation, disease and politics. Start looking at the good you are taking for granted and remind your self of happy marriages, good tv, fun with friends, rollercaosters, and trampolins, secure jobs a nice car and some one opening the door for you. You already know the ugly things in life so it is time to start focusing on and appreciating the beuatiful things in life too. Start with you! :) |
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Posted: 31/07/2010 17:47
Maybe one of the worse things these kind of people say is that "life is hard", "stop being so childish and face reality, life will only get harder from here" <-- I already heard this. I can only be so sorry for people who think like this, this is pitiful, to think only about the negative things that make life harder and ignore all the joy in it. It seems just because they have this view of life, they want you to have this view too. Please don't fall in this trap. Now when I hear these unmotivating stuff, I remember a quote, I'm not sure who said it, but it makes sense a lot: "Keep away from small people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great." I'm sorry I didn't found this quote before I heard from a classmate and even psicologists that the job I was starting was impossible to be successful at, and I should face reality what is very hard and not the wonders in my childish imagination... Thanks her I was sooo unmotivated that I stopped my ocupation and fell even more into depression... Now (couple years later), I'm working with something similar and being successfull at, I still dealing with motivation issues, but despite all the negative demotivating stuff people said - I proved to myself they are wrong! I understand why you don't want to grow up, when I was little I promissed myself I will never grow up. When we were children, war, diseases and death already existed, the diference is that we don't focused in it, and that's no reason to change the view we had when we were children, just be responsible and take care of yourself it's what matters. It's really annoying to see our friends care only about sex, drugs and alcohol, my best friend from childhood forgot me because now she only cares about her boyfriend, I miss so much the times that playing with barbies was the greatest thing, but she "grew up" and I don't want to... I was very upset with her, but I already overcame. And about school, go easy with it, when I was younger I heard that after elementary, school would become a lot harder, I was terrified with it, but when I came at it, it was really not that hard. Growing up doesn't necessarily make things get worse, many get better if you don't forget to have fun with them. Making money is important, but working with something you enjoy doing also, don't pick a job only because it makes money, but because you can also have fun with it. And please don't let people put on your mind that an adult's life have to be boring and full of worries, the wonders are there for who want to see, no matter the age. |
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Posted: 14/08/2010 21:39
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Posted: 15/08/2010 00:44
Don't give up on life yet you have A LOT more to go. If you read my post in this section (the really really long one lol), my high school days were nothing I can really say I'm happy about, but I wouldn't have it any other way I don't think, and I never gave up. just keep on truckin lol |
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