About grief
Grief after a loss is a natural process with no fixed timeline. Support can help when pain does not ease over time, when the loss was sudden or traumatic, or when it becomes very hard to carry on with daily life.
Family therapists work with the whole family or several of its members to improve communication, resolve conflicts and go through changes such as separations, losses or a child’s difficulties. They look at relationships rather than at one person alone.
Getting mental health care in Brunei
Public health system · Ministry of Health – Psychiatry and Psychology Services
Public mental health care is run by the Ministry of Health, mainly through the Department of Psychiatry at RIPAS Hospital and the Ministry's psychology services. The Clinical Psychology Unit takes referrals from hospitals and private clinics. The Community Psychology Division takes referrals from government health centres and schools and sees patients at health centres by appointment. Ask your nearest health clinic or hospital for a referral. More information
How to check that a professional is licensed
- Allied Health Professions Council of Brunei Darussalam (AHPCBD). Under the Allied Health Professions Order 2017, clinical psychologists and psychologists, occupational therapists and speech and language therapists must be registered with the AHPCBD and hold a practising certificate. The Council publishes a directory of registered professionals. Search the official register
- Brunei Medical Board. Doctors, including psychiatrists, are registered with the Brunei Medical Board, which publishes a list of registered medical practitioners. Search the official register
Urgent help in Brunei
If your life or someone else's is in danger, call the emergency number now. These services can help at any time:
- 991 · Ambulance
- 145 · Talian Harapan 145 (Ministry of Health)
Information reviewed in November 2026 · Sources: moh.gov.bn, moh.gov.bn
Signs to look out for
Grief can bring sadness, longing, anger, guilt, disbelief, tiredness and even physical aches, and it often comes in waves. There is no right timeline. It may help to seek support when the pain stays just as intense for a long time, you cannot carry out daily tasks, you feel life has lost all meaning, you avoid everything linked to the loss, or you feel stuck in guilt or anger.
What helps: treatments and professionals
Most people do not need therapy to grieve, but support can help when grief is especially difficult. Grief-focused therapies, including cognitive-behavioural approaches adapted to prolonged grief, and meaning-centred or narrative approaches, have growing evidence. Psychologists and psychotherapists with experience in bereavement are the usual professionals. Support groups and family therapy can also help, especially after the loss of a child or a sudden death.
When to seek urgent help
If the pain of loss leads to thoughts of ending your life, wanting to join the person who died, or harming yourself, contact your local emergency services or go to the nearest emergency department straight away. Seek prompt help too if you stop eating or drinking, or if alcohol or other substances have become your main way of coping.
What you can do in the meantime
Allow yourself to feel what comes, without forcing it or rushing it. Keep basic routines like sleep and meals, and accept practical help from others. Talking about the person who died, sharing memories or creating small rituals can help. Be aware that anniversaries and special dates may be harder. Reliable information about grief can reassure you that what you feel is common.
What does a family therapist do?
A family therapist works with families as a system, seeing several members together or in different combinations. Day to day they help families improve communication, manage conflict, adapt to changes such as separation, illness, migration or the arrival of a child, and support a member who is struggling. They look at roles, rules and patterns in the relationships rather than blaming one person.
When to see a family therapist
Family therapy makes sense when tension at home is constant, when a child or teenager’s difficulties affect everyone, after a separation or blended-family transition, during a loss or serious illness, or when communication has broken down between generations. If one person has a severe mental health condition, family therapy can complement, not replace, individual treatment. Couple-only problems may suit couples therapy better.
How to choose
When choosing, check the licence and training, the approach they use and whether they have experience with what you need. Consider practical aspects too: language, price, location or online sessions and availability. The relationship with the professional matters a great deal; if after a few sessions it does not feel right, it is fine to change.
Frequently asked questions
Does the public health system in Brunei cover psychological care?
Public mental health care is run by the Ministry of Health, mainly through the Department of Psychiatry at RIPAS Hospital and the Ministry's psychology services. The Clinical Psychology Unit takes referrals from hospitals and private clinics. The Community Psychology Division takes referrals from government health centres and schools and sees patients at health centres by appointment. Ask your nearest health clinic or hospital for a referral.
How do I check that a family therapist is licensed in Brunei?
Allied Health Professions Council of Brunei Darussalam (AHPCBD): Under the Allied Health Professions Order 2017, clinical psychologists and psychologists, occupational therapists and speech and language therapists must be registered with the AHPCBD and hold a practising certificate. The Council publishes a directory of registered professionals.